To reset yourself means to stop from everything you’re currently doing and do something else instead for a little while. This “something else” is usually very different from your day to day activity. The reasons we should do this vary from just needing a break to clean our thoughts. And it can go as far as assessing our life and whether the way we currently live is actually what we imagine(d) and want(ed). A reset can mean breaking the small habits and boring routines. But it can also mean doing something way more significant and bold, like changing our job completely or the relationship we’re currently in.
Resetting ourselves is not something mandatory, it depends a lot on the lifestyle we have. If we feel we live a balanced life already and we’re happy and satisfied, then there’s no need to plan reset activities. Resetting ourselves is not based on a by-the-clock calendar. We might feel like doing this every day, or once a year, or just randomly from time to time. The idea is to know when we need it, and we will be looking at how to know when we need a reset in the following paragraphs.
How do we know when a reset is needed
We wake up every morning with an even lower mood to go through the current day compared to the previous one. We feel like we’re on autopilot most of the days. We do things because we have to do them, but we don’t really remember doing them if we’re asked. Nothing emotionally touches us really, we’re exhausted and almost constantly lacking the energy to do the things we once did and loved, like our hobbies.
Family is not helping. Our job feels anything but exciting. The prospect of leaving on holiday barely changes anything in our mood.
We’re either feeling like going nowhere, or in no mood to go to that somewhere we think we want to go. Either our mundane to-do’s are too routine, too boring, and carrying no emotions, or we simply feel lost in a life not ours anymore.
I am pretty sure most of use can recognize some of the things I described. Basically, a reset is needed when we are just very deep into details and we’re missing the big picture. And that can happen while working on a project, task or while we’re emerged in an activity. In the extreme opposite, that can happen on our life as well, we get comfortable and never question anything nor try to change. But the cost is that we’re dying inside.
Reset from daily life
A very good way to reset from the daily routine is exercising. Besides being a very good energizer, exercising contributes to forcing the brain to take a break and focus on the pain of the body. This way, you reset all the thoughts and worries and patterns and details you were emerged into. Exercising can be as simple as a vigorous walk in the neighborhood or in a park. The fresh air will do you so much good!
Take a break from electronics – including computer, phone, tablet. And do nothing. Do not read nor engage in conversations. Walk if you want to, or just meditate for 15 minutes. But just do nothing and let your mind move from thought to thought, without sticking to any thought for too long.
Another way to reset is to give yourself a pampering day. Go for a massage, haircut, test drive, stay in bed and read a soothing book, or for that matter, anything that feels like spoiling yourself. It will allow you to take a break, release the negative energy and bring back the good mood.
While a reset from time to time is definitely helping, we need a life reboot when going through a life crisis or noticing we are constantly not happy. We need to do something to enable us to assess where we are and start over if needed. There are a few ways to do so – and they all involve taking a drastic action either for your brain or for your body.
Let’s start with the eating habits. Fasting or changing something drastically for a few days or a week can do wonders. Not more than a week though as it can have bad consequences. A week away climbing mountains, a weekend practicing the sport you’re most scared of or something with a strong positive emotional impact.
These reboots in my opinion are of two kinds: a sudden reboot, in form a shock (such as doing something really scary to shake you off emotionally) or the mild ones, but as effective as the sudden ones.
If a sudden reboot means doing something that feel really like a challenge and gets you out of your comfort zone (things such as doing a public speech, or bungee jumping), the mild reboot is more like taking time for introspection. This can be done through a retreat, meditation, getaway from all the familiar things and take the time to think and process everything. A vacation also fits into this – if it’s a real vacation and you really take the time to switch off everything else.
Be it a sudden or a mild reboot, the most important step is the one that follows – introspection. After feeling like you have done a reboot, you need to sit down alone, with your mind open, and really analyze what happened, why and how you want to continue. What made you unhappy? Why is it making you so miserable? What do you want to change?
Once you find these answers, go do. Go implement the changes you want to implement. Otherwise you will just go back to where you were, and we want to avoid this at all costs. Hitting a reboot moment means there’s something in your life that reached its fullness and it needs change. Don’t ignore what your body tells you and start changing the things you need to change so that you feel better.
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